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#1 Posted : Thursday, 4 June 2009 11:15:00 a.m.(UTC)
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My in-laws who previous did not gamble have started to gambling when the Sky City casino opened in Auckland. The in-laws have worked hard all their lives and have invested wisely. They are now retired with approx $80,000 in investment income. The father play's blackjack and the mother likes to chase jackpots on the pokies. They go 3 - 4 times a week and can stay all day long. The family have commented that they should not go as it is a bad habit. Also we have told them that they have worked hard for their money only to throw it away so easily. They do not spend on themselves but they will spend thousands at the casino.

There reply is that yes they have worked hard, but now that the kids have grown up and looking after themselves they can do as they please with their money. What happens if the money runs out and they have to sell some of there investments...so be it. They like going to the casino. They are not doing anything wrong!!

We have heard from people that they are quite big players and are members of the high rollers club.

My questions is if they are happy going to the casino, what advice can one say to them before they hit rock bottom. Examples of others losing and banning themselves from the casino has not helped. Mum has also won a few jackpots which does not help in persuading her that gambling is a bad thing.

Any advice/comments will be much appreciated.
anonymous
#2 Posted : Thursday, 4 June 2009 11:15:00 a.m.(UTC)
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Hi Anonymous

Unfortunately, I don't know what advice you can give them, it is obvious from your post that you are very concerned about what is happening to them.

You can either a) let them be and whatever happens happens or b) be ready to help them in whichever way you choose.

Have you thought about getting in contact with the helpline, they would be able to give some help to you, and also may be able to give you some ideas on what to do next.

Hope this helps
anonymous
#3 Posted : Thursday, 4 June 2009 11:15:00 a.m.(UTC)
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Hi Anonymous,
How are you doing?? you certainly sound concerned about yur in laws.
Maybe asking them How would they know if it became a problem and directing them to this website to read some of the materials to educate them of the dangers of gambling might be helpful??
ALso expressing your own concerns for their well being rather than telling them that what they are doing is wrong.
Certainly the Helpline will be happy to talk to you or your inlaws and they can call anonymously if they wish.
glorp
#4 Posted : Thursday, 4 June 2009 11:15:00 a.m.(UTC)
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Hi Anonymous
I recomend very very strongly that you or your partner quickly talk to your in laws about the speed and severity of gambling losses that will happen in their current circumstances. This is fact and wise people which I am sure they are at heart will quickly recognise the folly that the time of retirement has allowed them to experiment with. My partner has written the above to you because he has experienced the heartache of this issue. He is happy to talk to you or your in laws in confidence and cannot emphasise strongly enough how much damage the current situation will cause. He asked me to convey also that pride is not an issue as in his experience he has seen some admirably intellegent and most respected people fall in the trap of this sick industry designed by sick modern psycologists. we will love to help you as best we can. be strong, couragous and challenging, even print this off and show it to your beloved ones.
best wishes
I am a gambler and my partner been affected by me and he had seen to much of it.
I am in the recovering.
Hope it help.
Yujira
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